Out of the blue my youngest son started clapping for us whenever we do or say something he finds awesome or worth celebrating. Which to a seven year old can be anything, like saying, “hey, I just took out the trash” cue applause. Or I think I’m going to make curry for dinner tonight” cue applause. At first we were confused, like, “Whaaaat? Why is he doing that?” But he’s so stinking cute all smiling ear to ear and clapping, you can’t help but join in smiling and clapping too. Afterwards you feel different, you feel happier than you did just a minute ago.
Why is this? Why does this 30 seconds-ish of clapping for seemingly simple things and sometimes nonsense things change how you feel? What is it about this act?
Well, it’s NOT the act itself that makes you feel happier but your thoughts about it. When I see my son clapping and grinning ear to ear I think thoughts like, “oh my goodness, he’s so cute!” or “I have no idea why he’s clapping but whatever it is, he’s looking so happy and proud.” or “This is totally silly but he’s so happy. I’m going to join him.” These thoughts, MY thoughts then generate a feeling within me. I feel happy, silly, grateful for such a cutie. These feelings then stimulate actions in me, hence to join in the clapping.
This whole thing lasts only a minute or so but what a mood booster! I saw a clip today on Facebook, it’s been around for a while but I’m just now seeing it. It’s called, “You sang my song.” Have you heard of it? It’s from Glamour magazine and they get top song artists to listen to YouTubers singing covers of their songs. Some of the songs are a completely different take, style, voicing of their popular songs so the celebrity listens and makes commentary’s the entire time. Then they find the Youtuber and have them watch the clip of the celeb watching and commentating on their work. It’s actually kind of cool.
These YouTubers though were SO AMAZED that the celebrity actually watched their video, that the celeb spoke to them, offered advice, gave compliments, etc. BUT…the thing they were THE MOST excited about was when the celebrity said their NAME.
We (humans) have this desire to be seen, noticed, appreciated, and CALLED BY NAME. We want to be seen as individuals, as special, as unique, different, and worthy of being capable of more. It doesn’t matter if Pink is clapping for you or a little seven year old boy. It feels good because we’re noticed, seen, and appreciated.
What if you didn’t need to wait for a celebrity to see you? or a little kid? or a friend? or a parent? What if you could feel good and seen, appreciated, and noticed WITHOUT having to wait for anyone? What if you could validate yourself? Love yourself? CLAP for yourself???
How different would you show up in the world? What if before class you thought about something you did that day and clapped a little for yourself? Either aloud or in your head – but really celebrated your wins – all of them – even the SMALL, seemingly insignificant ones that no one else seems to appreciate? I bet you’d feel better. You’d show up a little happier. You’d be a little more confident and able to be a bit more authentic in the world too.
Doesn’t it all sound great? You should try it. See how you feel. We all need to be seen, loved, validated, and appreciated but it should be by the person that matters the most in your life…YOU. YOU hold the most weight in your life. YOU are the one that decides how you’ll feel. YOU are the one who sets the goals and limits you live by in your life. YOU are the one that you have to listen to day in and day out. Shouldn’t YOU carry the most weight then? Shouldn’t YOU be like a celebrity in your own life?
Give yourself the gift of feeling special. Give yourself the gift of being appreciated and seen and noticed. Clap for yourself. Clap a lot. Celebrate every. single. win.
It’s so fun. Try it.
Let me know how it goes for you!
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