A List of Loves
I’m sure if I asked you write down a list of the 10 things you value most, the things you love it wouldn’t be very difficult and it you could think of them pretty quick. We value our family, our time, our faith, our freedom. But as we progress through the day(s) sometimes we find these values and these loves getting put on the back burner while others things take the bulk of our energy instead.
Motivated By Love
I’ve always loved the question what if everything we did were motivated by love? I assumed the answer would be that our world would be a beautiful place and that peace and harmony would abound. But what I didn’t realize or think about was that everything we do in our lives already IS motivated by love but we love differently and we love different things.
To achieve that peace and harmony in the picturesque world we would need to all be focused on our love of others and wanting their well being over our own. But what happens instead is that we’re so focused on our own lives and all the daily things that we get our loves out of order and out of alignment with what we really deep down want and believe.
David Brooks introduced this concept in his book, “The Road To Character” when he said,
“We often put our loves out of order. If someone tells you something in confidence and then you blab it as good gossip at a dinner party, you are putting your love of popularity above your love of friendship. If you talk more at a meeting than you listen, you may be putting your ardor to outshine above learning.”
It isn’t a question of not being motivated by love. It’s a question of being motivated by the right love – our higher loves instead of our lower loves.
When that one sister in your ward harbors control a little too much and seems to drive everyone crazy by her aggressive attitude it’s not that she’s not motivated by love. She is, in fact. She just has her loves mixed up. She’s focused on her love of control more than her love of connection and relationships or humility.
What about that family member who is always late or just doesn’t show up to family gatherings at all. It would seem like they’re not motivated by love but I assure you they are. They’re motivated by love of comfort, of self, of whatever they’re doing in their lives and they’re not focused on love of family, love of togetherness.
When you go to the store and you spend way more than you intended to it’s not that you don’t value your money or your family. It’s just that your loves are mixed up. You’re letting your love of things take a higher placement on your list.
We really ARE all motivated by love. Everything we do is motivated by a love of something but the problem is is that we’re getting our loves all jumbled and out of order.
What are your Higher Loves?
So the first thing you need to do is figure out what your higher loves are. What do you value most? What do you WANT to value most?
Do you pattern your day after one that values these things most? What gets in the way? What other loves – what other lower loves creep in and get in the way of your higher loves?
Love of status?
Take a few minutes today and make a list of what you value. List your higher loves then think about what stops you from giving those the amount of time and energy that you think they should. We need to be mindful of how we’re spending our precious time and energy throughout our day. Are we spending our precious heartbeats on our higher loves?
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