Being Different

Be Different “Be a fruit loop in a bowl of Cheerios”  “Be a flamingo in a flock of pigeons” “Be yourself, everybody else is already taken” – Oscar Wilde “Better to be a nerd than one of the herd!” – Mandy Hale “Be yourself, everybody else is already taken”  There’s several that we hear, see, read quite frequently and they sound great. Intellectually we get it. We don’t really want to be a clone to everyone else but we don’t necessarily want to be really different either. I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. I have several clients, friends, and family even that struggle with this. They feel uncomfortable being different. They know they’re different. They like the things that make them different. They don’t really want to change but they don’t like others not understanding or accepting the things that make them unique.   Here’s the thing, we want so desperately to be special, to be a somebody that does something great in the world, to be noticed, recognized, appreciated for who we are and what we can do. And while we want to be special we don’t really like the idea and reality of being different.  While being special is defined as:  Being distinguished by some unusual quality especially : being in some way superior or to be held in particular esteem or this one that I really like: designed for a particular purpose Different on the other hand is defined as: Partly or totally unlike others, Not the same as, or unusual It’s easy to see why we crave that specialness and argue with being different. Being different isn’t as appealing because when you’re different you might not get the recognition, or high esteem from others. Instead it’s different, unusual, not the same as. Why do … Continue reading Being Different