“What you appreciate appreciates”
Meaning, what you place your value on, what you choose to focus on expands or increases.
What do you appreciate? – focus on?
I find this very evident with the work I do (and in my own life) to be true. I’m sure you have too. If you think for a minute I bet you could name someone you know that is a bit of a downer. They choose to see the world as a negative place where bad things are always happening to them and that their life is is just unfair. Already have a face in your mind?
On the other hand, can you also name someone in your life that is just a happy person? That always seems to find the good in each situation and that things aren’t “too bad”?
In both cases what they chose to appreciate appreciated, it grew/expanded and they experienced more of it. In your life, what are you focusing on? What are you giving value to?
Case and Point
I have to say that it was quite fascinating to me that just after I wrote the draft for this post I took my son to get his haircut at a salon. When we arrived this stylist was already helping a customer and said she’d get to us soon so we sat down to wait. The woman that she was currently helping was heatedly ranting about someone that she knew. We tried to tune her out and read our books that we brought with us but she was so loud and the salon was only so big. When she finished my son took the chair and the stylist started cutting away. What surprised me was that the customer came and sat down next to me instead of leaving. She then proceeded to tell me all about this other woman she was upset with.
I wasn’t about to participate in the type of conversation so I politely told her I couldn’t comment as I didn’t know the woman. So she pulled out her phone and started skimming through the news/social media I don’t know. A minute later she started reading some things out loud in yet another heated manner. She was outraged at the news article she was reading and saying things like, “If that were me, I’d sue!” Then she’d look over at me for validation or agreement. Again, not getting what she wanted from me she turned to another story…and another…She noticed my kids were with me during the day and commented how homeschooling is. We chatted about it for oh, 30 seconds before she chimed in yet again about a person she knew in her life that homeschools and how that person is doing it all wrong and how her kids are really “bad” kids that she’s pretending are angels. It was yet another story of drama and seen through a negative filter. It was so fascinating to me to witness – especially since I had just written this post so I had to go back and include this.
This woman chose to appreciate drama so in her life (or the very minimal view I saw of it) drama appreciated. Everything she read, saw, and heard was through a drama tinted view.
Remember, what you appreciate, appreciates.
It’s important to realize this because what you focus on DOES matter. It becomes the filter in which you experience life. Tony Robbins once said that, “Where your focus goes, energy flows.” – again stating that what you’re allowing yourself to stop and dwell on is what will manifest to you throughout your day/life.
Most of us don’t think about this but knowing this, taking a few minutes to think about this will have huge outcomes for you. Planning ahead of time will set you up to turn your focus throughout the day. When you decide what is important to you (what you appreciate) your brain will remember that and will give you what you want, what you value. If I give more importance to the negative instead of finding the positive, my brain will store that information away and the next time I’m in a situation it’s going to find the negative again because that’s what I’ve deemed important. So you have to tell yourself what you what to focus on. You have to train your brain to find the good (or whatever it is you want to value).
What do you WANT to appreciate?
What do you want to experience in your life? What do you value? What do you appreciate? And what do you want to expand, increase, or appreciate in your life?
Think about it. Decide. Practice. Then see the major changes that will take place in your life. It’s amazing.
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