Gary E. Stevenson said,
“As I agonized over my many inadequacies I received an impression, FOCUS NOT ON WHAT I CAN’T DO, but rather, on WHAT I CAN DO.”
We create a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering for ourselves by thinking and rethinking and then thinking again about that thing you said or did or didn’t say or do. Then to make matters worse after beating yourself up about it, you start reminding yourself of and pointing out all of your other faults, perceived flaws, and failures. It can quickly escalate into a pity party of epic proportions! And I don’t know about you but when I’m in that state and feeling all those feels the last thing I want to do is to get out there and get stuff done! No, I want to hide, go to bed, eat chocolate and stay small.
But what if instead of focusing on all the things you can’t change now or the things you can’t do yet and instead focused on the things you could?
I love the thought, “Okay so THAT happened, now what?”
Instead of spiraling down that unpleasant rabbit hole of let’s pick on Hannah, why not make it simple, factual, drama-free and say, “Okay, so that happened, NOW WHAT?” What CAN you do now?”
Ask yourself better questions than “What’s wrong with me?! That was so stupid!” because your brain is going to answer it…and do you really want it to answer THAT question?
Give it a better question, “THAT happened. Now what can I do about it? What is the best thing I can do right now?”
Your brain is amazing and will go to work finding answers to this question. It will give you all kinds of good ideas and options to try on. It also opens you up to receive personal revelation. It invites the Holy Ghost to speak to you.
Here’s an example:
This young woman in college was behind in her classes, she didn’t have the social life she’d hoped for or wanted. She wasn’t happy by any means. “Finally one day she fell to her knees and cried out, ‘what can I do to improve my life?’ The Holy Ghost whispered, ‘Get up and clean your room.’ This prompting came as a complete surprise, but it was just the start she needed.” (General Conference 10/15, Elder Larry R. Lawrence)
She asked a GREAT QUESTION. It wasn’t, “what is wrong with me?!” But, What can I do to improve?
Stop focusing on your inadequacies. You’re so much more than your limitations and start focusing on what you CAN do.
“You are a child of God, of INFINITE capacity.” – Gordon B. Hinckley
You can do so much.
Never ending possibilities.
Never ending capacity.
You got this.
Have an amazing week, my friends!
LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles