Two Magic Words To Think When You’re Feeling Left Out

It happens to all of us at one point or another. Friends or family get together and you seem to have missed out on an invite. You might hear about it afterwards and you think, “wait, what about me? Why wasn’t I invited?” We feel hurt, offended even. We develop the FOMO sense and we start trailing down the rabbit hole of self-doubt and insecurity. WHY didn’t they invite me? Our brain tends to spiral out and starts offering up a lot of reasons why. Maybe they don’t like me. Maybe they didn’t really want to talk to me. What did I do wrong?  Then our very efficient brain starts rummaging through the files of past memories with this new lens and filter and again offers us up reasons and now evidence to back up those claims. “They used to complain about so and so and would purposely not invite them. See, they’re doing the same to me. They ALWAYS get together and they NEVER invite me.”  or “they made a weird look when I was talking last week. Maybe they were already planning to leave me out. This is the same thing that happened when I was in the sixth grade and Patty Leland and Michelle Gerald went to the park and purposely didn’t include me.” Then we start believing this story we’ve concocted in our minds and we feel awful. Most of the time we don’t even stop to question whether or not we really even WANT to believe this scenario. We just assume that we know exactly what happened and why you weren’t invited. It feels worse when it involves family. A previous client shared an experience where her sister in laws would always get together and hang out and never include her. She was hurt thinking thoughts like, “I’m only … Continue reading Two Magic Words To Think When You’re Feeling Left Out