The Bandaid Covering Our Pain

We’re all imperfect. We know this.  We’re all struggling with something. But so much of the time we don’t allow ourselves the opportunity to actually SEE what’s going on. We don’t want to acknowledge the things that are actually causing the hurt. We know it’s there. It hurts, it causes us pain, it’s not going away. When we start to glimpse at the things in our lives that are causing the pain we stop. We don’t want to see that. We don’t want to think that. So we quickly counter that. We quickly cover it up with a bandaid of happy thoughts. But…I’m a good person. I shouldn’t think that way. I have so many blessings. I should just be happy. But then the hurt keeps nudging you and reminding you that there’s something there. It’s like you have a cut on your arm. It hurts. You know it’s there but you don’t want to deal with it right now, so you slap on a bandaid and keep going. Except that cut really does need attention. It needs real care or it’s just going to get worse and create even more of a mess. YOU are not the cut. You HAVE a cut. Look at it. Examine it. Then start treating it accordingly. I used to struggle with this. I’d have a problem but I didn’t like looking at that part of me so I’d cover it. Mask it. Pretend it wasn’t there because I was ashamed I felt that way at all. Sometimes we’re negative. We don’t realize we’re doing it because it just becomes a habit. It becomes part of our daily thoughts and language. One client struggled with her brother. She didn’t like her brother all that much. He bothered her. He annoyed her. He did things … Continue reading The Bandaid Covering Our Pain