Gary E. Stevenson said, “As I agonized over my many inadequacies I received an impression, FOCUS NOT ON WHAT I CAN’T DO, but rather, on WHAT I CAN DO.” We create a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering for ourselves by thinking and rethinking and then thinking  again about that thing you said or did or didn’t say or do. Then to make matters worse after beating yourself up about it, you start reminding yourself of and pointing out all of your other faults, perceived flaws, and failures. It can quickly escalate into a pity party of epic proportions! And I don’t know about you but when I’m in that state and feeling all those feels the last thing I want to do is to get out there and get stuff done! No, I want to hide, go to bed, eat chocolate and stay small. But what if instead of focusing on all the things you can’t change now or the things you can’t do yet and instead focused on the things you could? I love the thought, “Okay so THAT happened, now what?”  Instead of spiraling down that unpleasant rabbit hole of let’s pick on Hannah, why not make it simple, factual, drama-free and say, “Okay, so that happened, NOW WHAT?” What CAN you do now?” Ask yourself better questions than “What’s wrong with me?! That was so stupid!” because your brain is going to answer it…and do you really want it to answer THAT question? Give it a better question, “THAT happened. Now what can I do about it? What is the best thing I can do right now?” Your brain is amazing and will go to work finding answers to this question. It will give you all kinds of good ideas and options to try on. It also … Continue reading Inadequacies