Our need to control…

We live in a world of seeming chaos and we’re creatures of order. We like order. We like to make sense of things. We want to control things so we’ll know what to expect, so we can predict some kind of outcome. We have thoughts like, “people SHOULD…” do certain things or “people SHOULDN’T” do certain things and it throws us completely off kilter when they react contrary to what we think. We get thrown for a loop when life gives us something different than we expected. “We live in a world that is beyond our control, and life is in a constant flux of change. So we have a decision to make: keep trying to control a storm that is not going to go away or start learning how to live within the rain.” – Glenn Pemberton We don’t like uncertainty. We don’t like not knowing. Sometimes it’s even small things that make us uneasy when we don’t know or can’t control the outcome, we worry, we panic, we try to “fix” things. Sometimes we even turn little things into BIG things because of the chatter that goes on in our minds. We tend to go to the extremes in our thinking a lot of the times, especially in regards to our kids! Look at these examples: My son has a new group of friends. I’m not sure how I feel about them…then we go to extremes – He might join a gang. He might make wrong decisions. This could RUIN his life! My daughter saw a movie at her friend’s house that we didn’t approve…aka…Great, now she’s been “exposed” to this and it she can’t even UN-SEE it. I have to control what she watches because it could make her violent or negative. My teen has just gotten … Continue reading Our need to control…