Have You Earned The Right To Your Teen’s Story?

“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” – Stephen R. Covey The biggest and most important component in communications and relationships is trust. It is the ability to know that you can share a portion of yourself with another human being and knowing that it’s going to be safe – that YOU are going to be safe. Brene Brown calls this concept, “The Vault”. This is a huge aspect of being able and willing to trust someone. (Link Below) “You don’t share information or experiences that are not yours to share. I need to know that my confidences are kept, and that you’re not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential.” I think we know this logically. We know that we shouldn’t talk about others or share things they’ve done that you don’t agree with. But sometimes we don’t realize that we’re doing it. As parents, we share our experiences with others. We chat with other Mom’s and “vent” to them about our rough day and what our kids did that made things so hard. Haven’t you ever gone to a mom gathering and said something like, “you will not even believe what _____________did to me today! Can you believe he/she did that?!” ? We all have. It’s funny when they’re little because it’s things like, “can you believe that little Johnny dumped the entire flat of eggs all over my floor?!” But then they’re teens and we have to be careful what we share. There’s this fine line that we should never to cross because the results are devastating. Parents complain that they can’t get their teen to open up and tell them things. Their teens say their parents share … Continue reading Have You Earned The Right To Your Teen’s Story?