Unnoticed Acts of Kindness

How many times have you done something for someone only to have them not notice or say anything? At first you’re confused thinking, “did they really not see or care?” Then it feels more like sadness or hurt that they didn’t say anything and you start questioning if you should have done it at all, if it was worth doing it at all because apparently it wasn’t a big deal to this person. So we spiral down this thought path and start to question why we did it in the first place. “It took a lot of time and effort to do! I thought they’d be grateful I did that. I wanted to do it because it was bothering me for a long time and I figured it must bother __________ too but I guess not. I can’t believe they didn’t say anything! Why did I even bother? I just wasted x amount of hours of my time when I could have been doing ___________ instead. I don’t even know why I did it. Next time I won’t do this for sure.” In the act of service though our thoughts are generally much different. They’re focused on the service itself, that the job needs to be done, that it feels so good to be doing this or accomplishing this task. Yes, there’s thoughts that so and so is going to be so surprised and proud, “I can’t wait until they see what I’ve done.” But they weren’t the ONLY reason you went about the task most of the time – and even if they were their reaction doesn’t change the value of the act of service you rendered. I love this quote from John Lennon. He says, “When you do something noble and beautiful and nobody noticed, do not be … Continue reading Unnoticed Acts of Kindness