Excuses. Love them. Okay, not really. They kind of bother me. My kids have a superpower almost in coming up with them sometimes. What’s going on with your room? Oh, I couldn’t clean it because I had a tickle in my throat…a month ago. Okay, that’s an exaggeration but there’s been many awesome ones before.
Seriously though, we all offer excuses justifying why we aren’t progressing in a certain area. Which is fine if you don’t really care about progress. But what if you do? What if you REALLY do want to change but it’s just so hard???
Think about some of the excuses that you tend to go to:
I can’t stop eating that. I just love ___________ too much.
When I was little my parents…
I couldn’t get to that because…
I didn’t have time…
I don’t have enough…
I’m not the kind of person that could…
It’s just too hard…
David Schwartz called this “excusitis” and he says, “Unsuccessful people suffer a mind-deadening disease we call excusitis…like any disease, excusitis gets worse if it isn’t treated properly…Once the victim of this failure disease has selected a “good” excuse, the excuse becomes imbedded deeper within his subconscious ness. Thoughts, positive or negative, grow stronger when fertilized with constant repetition…Vaccinate yourself against excusitis.”
I used to teach piano lessons for a number of years and I had been a student myself since I was five years old. I’ve heard and over the years myself gave many, many excuses. I wanted to play with my friends and I didn’t want to practice during the week but when judgement day, I mean, lesson day came around I was full of excuses. So I could absolutely relate to my young students but as an older, wiser teacher I also know that there is no substitute for actually doing the work. Some of my more successful students lead busy lives but never let excusitis settle in and stay. They powered through and came prepared, pieces memorized, and ready to progress and move forward. The students that suffered from excusitis generally did okay but always had the same piece again that week. They didn’t progress as much as the other that pushed through and made their practice a priority.
Same principle here. Self care needs to be a priority not something to do IF there’s time. There’s rarely ever time. There’s always something to do, someone to help, something to clean, somewhere to be, food to make, jobs to get done, etc. You know this. These are VALID reasons and could be used and seen as valid excuses. However, there are people doing what you want to be doing, somehow making it work. There is always a way IF you really want it.
Don’t give into excusitis. It WILL keep you stuck. If you let the goal/idea/desire sit with you for a while the answer WILL come to you. There IS a way.
Let me give you a few examples of people that didn’t let excuses get in the way of what they wanted:
Kyle Maynard, born WITHOUT limbs, wrestled when he was younger, learned and participated in cage fighting, hiked some of the TALLEST mountains in the WORLD, WITHOUT the help and assistance of prothestics. Come on, that’s amazing right?
Amy Purdy was a snowboarder and a very athletic and active person. She got a form of bacterial meningitis and had to have both her legs amputated. Valid excuse not to snowboard anymore right? Kind of hard to do without legs. Nope. It did not stop her. She designed her own attachments to connect her prothestic legs to her snowboard and was on the slopes that very SAME YEAR. She also competed in Dancing With The Stars…and WON.
Harry S. Truman, our 33rd president didn’t have a college degree. Valid reason to not think he could succeed at running for office when so many others were more qualified and able than he was. Did NOT stop him. He was president from 1945 – 1953.
Iyanla Vanzant had a horrible childhood. Abused, mistreated, lacked education. Married into a rough arranged marriage and had three kids and an abusive husband by the time she was twenty. She wanted a better life for herself and her children so she overcame her dire circumstances, left her husband, put herself though night school, earned a law degree, became a lawyer, public speaker, advocate for women, author, and spiritual teacher. She didn’t and still doesn’t allow excusitis anywhere near her.
Jack Canfield, co-author of Chicken Soup for the soul was rejected over 144 times from different publishing companies before he landed his big break. Millions and millions of those books are still being sold each year. He found a way to make it work. He could have used the excuse, I tried. Totally valid. He did try…a lot. I’d be tempted to quit after 5! He is successful because he cured himself of excusitis.
If these successful individuals can do amazing feats despite the very VALID and reasonable circumstances standing in their way, can’t you overcome your obstacles and make your goals happen too?
What is ONE thing you’re currently working on?
What excuses are you giving yourself that is blocking success for you?
Do you REALLY believe those are true and valid? (Remember those individuals mentioned above)
Everything is solvable.
You can make anything you want happen.
Cure yourself of excusitis.
You can do it.
I want to help you reach your goals. If you’re struggling to break free of excusitis, If this is something you struggle with and have struggled with for YEARS. Set up a mini session with me. It’s FREE. I promise you’ll walk away with REAL tools to help you learn to move forward through difficult circumstances, gain confidence, peace, and reach your goals. This is powerful work and so worth it.