Why speaking in absolutes is hurting you

We’ve all said it and believed it… Benjamin Franklin once said, “Nothing is certain except DEATH and TAXES” but still we tend to speak and live in these absolutes A LOT more than we realize and it’s not a good thing. How many times have you said recently something with the words: Always or Never? When I was first married I didn’t realize how often I spoke in these absolutes and each time I did my husband would say, “really? NEVER???” I’d roll my eyes and say, “you know what I mean”. But up until that point I just really didn’t even think about what I was saying and how much of it I was actually believing. How often do you say these things? Think about it: I’ve never been able to… My kids never… I’ll never be able to… I’ll never get that… You never… I could never do that… or You always… __________ always does that. It’s just something I’ve always done. My kids always… They’re always… There really are very few things that can be said in absolutes everything else isn’t certain and should not be given an absolute.   The problem with absolutes The problem with absolutes is that you carry around negative energy and thinking and it DOES hurt you. It creates limiting beliefs and holds us back from living as full of a life as we could have. Each time we say “I’ll never…” we’re practicing that thought until it eventually becomes a belief and a habit for us. Challenge those thoughts. Don’t allow those thoughts to stay. Don’t even entertain them. When your brain wants to go to scarcity and thinking that you could never have something, challenge it. WHY can’t you have it? What’s the benefit of keeping that thought? Is it serving … Continue reading Why speaking in absolutes is hurting you