Yeah, But…

The holidays are upon us. There’s LOTS to do. There’s going to be many places for us to go and people to see and visit. But the holidays are a touchy subject for A LOT of people because it brings up some discomfort and thoughts that leave us feeling frustrated, upset, and disappointed. I want to spotlight just ONE of the many reasons why this is a tough time for people and what you can do about it. We all have these EXPECTATIONS about how things should go and how people should act. THIS is the ONE thing I want to address today. Our expectations and WHY they create a problem and so much suffering for us sometimes. For example, say I decide to host a holiday dinner party for my family. I want everyone to be there and come dressed in holiday attire and it’s just going to be this great event. So I spend lots of time and energy thinking and planning this party. I think about what food I should prepare and serve. I plan how my home should look and the decorations I want to put out. I plan games and activities for us to do and I visualize this party and all of us playing and laughing and eating and it’s just this amazing thing, right? I can’t wait. So, day of the party. I’ve spent hours cleaning, prepping, preparing, and anticipating. The time has come! People start arriving and then things take an unexpected turn. My brother in law doesn’t show up and I start feeling annoyed that he didn’t even offer a head’s up that he wasn’t going to come. My sister comes an hour late (not in holiday attire) and then announces that she needs to leave early. This evening is a … Continue reading Yeah, But…