Best Advice EVER

I talked to one of my good friends on the phone this last week. She was so upset about her mother in law. She felt like her mother in law was judging her. That she still wasn’t really accepted as part of the family yet. She complained that because they have different beliefs and traditions that her mother in law was silently criticizing her every move. She’s been in this family for over 25 years and has never felt like she belonged. Where is all this coming from? I asked her. What happened that is ┬ábringing all this up right now? My friend had called her mother in law to invite her to a family party they were having kind of last minute. Her mother in law told her she already had plans and would see what she could do. She was seemingly short on the phone to which my friend interpreted as her feeling annoyed or frustrated that she had even called. Okay, this ONE act quickly brought up YEARS and YEARS of thoughts that my friend has been silently keeping track of. Not holding grudges or anything like that – but our minds quickly bring to memory past thoughts and feelings in an effort to PROTECT us – in this case – her mind was telling her: Danger! You might get hurt here – remember such and such? and this too? She doesn’t dwell on these thoughts or even think about them regularly but she hasn’t processed them correctly so they’re still there and will continue to be until she can create new thoughts and new meanings behind those thoughts. Her story isn’t so unique though…Every day we have interactions with others and we interpret what those conversations mean to us, what they say about us. Brooke Castillo, … Continue reading Best Advice EVER